Due to other peoples illnesses(which they then shared with me) I have struggled to get my brain in gear for this event.
But that has never stopped me before lol.
So I thought I would share some of my own personal feelings with regard to such matters.
In this modern day I find myself very detached from Death rites/funerals.
They seem to be more and more about the living, and less and less about the dead.
It's ok if you want to have a party ...or a more sombre gathering...but they all just seem so pointless to me.
I find that I don't "forget" those that have passed on...once I know them I remember them always...every day, regardless of "special days" or anniversaries. Specific dates have become irrelevant to me.
for example, my older sister died when we were very young...on the 3rd of October. I don't focus on that as a date of remembrance. I have kept her guitar. Everyday I see it and remember her.
Another example is the poppy.
Every year I remember the fallen, both family and not. I go through the motions of public remembrance on 11th November, but I keep the wreath on my wall all year round...and EVERY time I see a poppy I remember them.
Everytime I learn a new skill or make something OR write a poem/story,
I remember my Father or Grandmother, people who continually taught me to appreciate each new experience life brought my way.
I know the dates they all died (for family history reasons) but I do not feel these days are important to their memory.
I know some people may find my reasoning disrespectful or irreverent, but being a follower of the natural cycle of life and death the only rites I require, are that I can remember the stories they told me and smile.
I do not believe in "heaven" or "hell", so religious ritual means nothing to me. And the apparent importance of "How many people turned up?" at a funeral sickens and saddens me. So to anyone who is thinking "guess she's worried no one will turn up for hers..." I have already set out my wishes with the undertaker. NO church service, biodegradable casket, NO after party...straight into the fire for me. To the best of my abilities I will leave this world with as little fuss as possible, leaving nothing but good wishes and a puff of smoke...
and a few works of art for you to remember me by.
*no I am not dying...I just have a snotty head cold*
Blessed Be...however you choose to remember :D